"All Great Changes Are Preceded By Chaos" ~Deepak Chopra
Most of us resist change. Change is scary and full of unknown. Change can also be hard, wonderful, necessary...... Whether we like it or not, it happens.
2016 has been the year of transition for me. Moving from Student back into the grown up world has seen many challenges and taken a lot longer than I thought it would. 2015 was full of travel, adventure, and graduating college; by comparison I have felt stuck in a 2016 rut. It was as I was updating my website this morning that I realized it's not a rut, it's a transition.
The world has been in chaos this year. It is every year, however, this year Terrorism, Violence, Poverty, Unemployment, Elections, Olympic scandals and more fill the headlines. Social media is full of "friends" (we've never met) who feel the need to force their opinions about these headlines onto to us because they are convinced they are right, re-tweeting political campaigns and spreading hate. Through this all, we are all going through our own individual chaos and life transitions. Every individual has something that is most important to them. I am hoping that by talking about my big life transition this year, we can all be a little more kind and open-minded about what everyone else might be going through. News and social media does not tell the entire story.
I am that person who likes to only share the positive. If I bring up a negative I want to always attach a solution to it. I try my best not to whine or complain outside of my own home and to spread kindness wherever I go. The truth is, however, that life is hard and some days just suck.
When I graduated college over a year ago I knew getting a full-time job would be difficult and take awhile. I did not think that over a year later I would still be looking. Unlike my younger, single fellow graduates I have to take my husband into account when applying for positions and where he can also happily live and work. I have submitted to hundreds of "entry level" jobs only to receive frustrating rejections such as 'We want someone with full-time experience', 'Sorry we feel you are overqualified', to my most common favorite 'You were our favorite interview....but we went with someone with more full-time experience'. Worst is when you just never hear back again. It's frustrating on a daily basis. All of these positions are being advertised as "entry level" and for "new grads" and yet we don't stand a chance. Talking to my fellow grads I know I am not alone. Most are experiencing the same things.
For one interview I was told I was exactly what they were looking for during the phone interview and asked if I would fly to Florida for and in person final interview. 'Just a formality, you are perfect, we'll train you on what you don't know...' I flew out at my own expense and within a minute of meeting the main boss knew I had wasted my time and money. She had not even discussed me with the person who had done my initial interview. She had not read my resume. She asked questions no entry level employee would know and stopped short of asking me how old I was (she appeared much younger). While the first person had told me I was their final interview, the new one said they had just started and they would get back to me in two weeks. I never heard from them again.
For the record I am a Fabulous 42, in great shape, and capable of keeping up with all the 20 year olds. I do strength training and run half marathons. I lift 70lb hay bales at the zoo and am happiest on the go all day. I have at least 40 more good active years in me before I physically slow down some.
The government jobs take hours to apply for and then you wait for months to find out if you have gotten an interview. I either never hear back or get an automated message saying I am fully qualified, however, they went with someone with more paid experience. I'm still waiting to hear from 6 government jobs I applied for.
I'm sensing a theme, are you?
There have been some bright spots in this transition to 'career me'.
The zoo I have volunteered for, for years, hired me to be a seasonal Reindeer keeper over the holidays, based solely on my reputation at the zoo, no interview needed. It's a shame really, I am good in interviews.
My dream Job and location have interviewed me for five different positions over the last year. I have positive feedback from HR and am currently waiting to hear about the latest two interviews. Hopefully they see my growth and persistence and this time I will get a 'Yes Rebecca We Want You!', instead of another 'Almost".
Now let's talk politics... I know I am breaking my don't discuss politics rule.
Well now you know about my tough transitioning year. I want to mention a few other things. I mentioned politics above. They are dividing our country and spreading hate. Millions of dollars are going into these campaigns that could be used for better things just to convince us that their opponent is more evil then they are. Yes I know who I am voting for and why. No I am not going into it now. I will ask that for a transition so big for our country you turn off the ads, stop listening to celebrities, and do your own research. Are you an animal lover like me? Do you know which candidate thinks trophy hunting is ok? Is worried about endangered species? our climate? Please vote, vote your conscience, and do your own thinking. Most of all be kind and respectful to those whose opinions are different from yours. Diversity is what makes the world work.
Now what? What do you do while you are waiting for your big transition to happen. I'll tell you what I am doing to fill my time. I got a job at Disneyland. If I can't help the real animals right now, I can work with animatronic ones hahaha. I apply for new jobs every time I see one that might work. I walk. I run. I hike. I spend time with my family. I daydream about moving and look at houses in all the places I apply for jobs at. I reorganize my house and get rid of useless materialistic things I do not use or need. I smile. I nap. Some days I curl up and hide. Like I said, some days suck. However, while transitions and life are hard, scary, and full of the unknown. I am convinced that life will only get more exciting and better if I have the patience to see things through. Until that happens I am going to be the best cast member I can at work, a kind friend, a good wife, and hard-working volunteer. I may get frustrated but I will not give up.
No Matter what transition you are going through, remember "All great changes are preceded by chaos" ~ Deepak Chopra
Be Kind To Everyone. Chaos is fun! (now repeat until you believe it)